When it comes to your home life listening to your family is extremely important. While you may think that you do listen, you can be so accustomed to your family that you aren’t listening with both ears.
Spouses are often guilty of this. They either become so busy that they are too tired to listen properly to each other. Or they have been married for so long, they think they know each other too well.
Of course, then there is the matter of having children. This can put a ton of stress onto all family members. But it is so important to remember to take the time to listen and pay attention to each person.
With a baby it is fairly easy. When they cry you know they are hungry, tired or need a change. As your children become teens things can be a little harder. They may not want you to listen to them. This is also the age group where their body language and actions can tell you a lot more than any words could.
It is perfectly natural and normal for parents to get frustrated. It is hard work taking care of children at any time. On top of that you don’t want to forget about your spouse.
The best way to handle the stress of parenthood is to become a good listener. While you don’t want to eavesdrop on your children, it is important that you listen to what they are saying.
For example many school aged children become the target of a bully. Your child may not say this outright to you, but they may be trying to tell you in a different way. If you become a good listener you will have the skills to pick up on these subtle efforts.
When you child wants your attention make time for them. Sit down with them and pay attention and focus on the conversation. Show them that you are listening by making eye contact and nodding in agreement with them.
When it is your turn to answer think about what you are going to say carefully. You don’t want to come out with an “I told you so” type of scenario. Be considerate and understanding, regardless of their actions. This is what being a parent is all about after all isn’t it?
The same applies to your spouse or partner. No matter how busy you are with work and your children, learn to make time for each other. Don’t forget to ask each other about your day and really listen to each other’s responses. Your relationship will strengthen because of it.
Randy Bett is the author of three books – 7 Secrets of Real Estate Investing, Investing in Real Estate Sucks Unless… and The Value Driven Approach To Sell Real Estate.
He is also a retired high school teacher and former Saskatchewan farm kid. He now writes, speaks and coaches full time. He is happily married and has 2 children and 2 grandaughters. He lives in Red Deer, Alberta.